Human beings have a strong desire to connect to each other.
By these connections they expand their experiences, learn about others and about themselves. Contrasting experiences with each other expands the worldview of a person.
I take him/her into my world, and that way my world is growing. The more connections I make, the more I am aware of the diversity, and it makes me more and more open toward others and thus toward myself. So knowing the world will help to know myself.
There is a simple rule to connections : Similar connects with similar.
Body connects with body. I can see you, touch you, taste you, hear you or smell you with my body organs. I connect to your body with my body. The things you do with your body – I interpret with mine. I see you dancing, i hear you singing, I feel you touching, etc.. Body usually interacts according to with what what we want./dont want. Regardless of the needs.
Mind or intellect connects with the mind or intellect.
Just as I listen to your voice with my ears, I understand yout thoughts with my mind. I process the products of your thinking with my thinking. The mind interacts in accordance with worldview and beliefs. According to what we like or dislike. This level ignores the real needs just as well.
Soul connects to the soul. This last one is more difficult to explain, because in order to explain i am using my mind. J
The soul has a lenguage of its own, and it can only be felt, but not explained in general terms. The soul works according the needs of a person, regardless of the wants or the likes.
Of course there is a complex interaction between these levels within a person. But the connections with others are always made on the same levels. You can never see or understand my soul, with your mind or your eyes, or physically hear my thoughts.
These connections can be made simultaniously, but never crossed. My soul can connect to your soul while we are exchanging ideas and look into each others eyes. And on the different levels we exchange completely different informations simultaneously.
Many times people try to explain the soul with thoughts. They write books about it, they try to put it into words. And yes, conclusions of a connection with the soul can be put into words or images at times, for example art comes close to it at times, but it has really nothing to do with what happens on the level of the mind. Its something completly different. It is common, that the soul understands and accepts something perfectly, while the mind fights and rejects it.
It can happen, that I emotionally cling on someone but our soul agree to part. Consciously I will suffer a decision I made myself on the level of my soul.
Inner balance is when we are capable to interpret, understand and accept the souls decicions in accordance with our mind and body.
In my experience the soul is the deepest personal level of making connections and decisions, than its the mind – the conscious and the subconscious, than the body.
The depth of our connections are also lined out that way.
A mere body-connection is the most shallow of connections, the intellectual understanding is one step deeper and the soul connection is the deepest personal connection.
There is a deeper connection than that, but its nonpersonal.
Connection translates also as Love throughout all this process.
But for now i prefer to use the term connection as contrary term to separation.
We will come to Love in another post that is yet to come.
So, a word of advice for those wishing to connect:
If you want to create a soul connection - don´t try to do it through the body. With the body all you will achieve is a body connection, so if you wish for depth, do not start there. Depending on the depth of the connection you wish to establish, start on that level of depth.
I see this mistake every day, people pretending to make crossed connection, having sex while wishing for a companion of the soul, or acting intellectual or soulful while they only wish to have sex. It is never the way to establish lasting and healthy connections by confusing or crossacting these levels.
Think about what you need, contrast it with what you want and make a conscious decision about the connections you make.
And most of all don´t blame others if the first one to cheat on You is Your own self.